Frequent questions about couples therapy
The questions I hear most often – with honest answers, including where the answer is simply no.
Ahead of the first appointment
Yes. The initial consultation is free and without obligation. You get to know me, set out your situation, and then decide in your own time whether you would like to continue.
The next available appointment is visible directly in the online booking.
Yes. You can begin on your own and work on your own part in the dynamic. That alone may already change something noticeably – and sometimes the second person joins later after all.
No. Questionnaires and health details are not required. Booking takes your name, email address and preferred time, and nothing else.
Formalities
Eight to twenty sessions over a few months is typical. After about five we look together at where you stand, and you decide again. There is no package and no minimum term.
Yes, after every session. The invoice is neutrally worded and contains no information about the content.
What I offer and what I do not
No. My focus is the relational dynamic between the two of you – what happens between you when you feel close or distant. For questions of sex therapy I will gladly point you to specialised colleagues.
Couples therapy works on what happens between you. Psychotherapy works on what goes on within one person. If one of you has a condition that requires treatment in its own right, individual treatment is the right setting.
Yes. ADHD in relationships is one of my focus areas. It is not about diagnosis but about the dynamic that takes shape: forgotten agreements, different speeds, the sense of constantly having to remind.
No. Couples therapy does not produce a diagnosis. If an assessment looks useful, I say so and name possible places to turn.
Practical matters
Yes. Online sessions work well if you travel a great deal for work or do not live in Bochum. You need a quiet room where you can both speak undisturbed, and a stable connection.
Yes. Some appointments are placed in the early evening on purpose, so that working couples do not have to keep taking time off.
Yes. We can speak German or English, in the practice and online.
Then I accompany you in doing that fairly and without unnecessary injury. A separation is not a failure of couples therapy – sometimes it is the outcome of a decision that has finally become clear.
If one of you has a condition that needs treatment in its own right, individual treatment is the right setting. You will find the corresponding offer under Psychotherapie Bochum.
The next step
Get to know me without any commitment
In the free initial consultation we clarify what is going on for you and whether working together feels like a fit.